Am I A BAD Person If I Want to Have Sex with Our Friends? (Video) »
Posted By dan-and-jennifer 1 year, 1 month ago in Business & FinanceHere's a question from a woman who would love to enhance her and her husband's love life by hooking up with some of their friends, but she's terribly afraid of what others will think of her...
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jasmine50001 year, 1 month ago
no your not bad. its not a burning isue but so what. your not apervert. perverts go after children.
some people are just overly judgmental.
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K9mikem1 year, 1 month ago
Yeah, I can't see how this fits in with the burning issues of the day.
It certainly doesn't deserve top billing as it has been discussed in various forums ad nauseum.
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sonshinegirl41 year, 1 month ago
You took a vow to be faithful to your husband. If your love life is not what you would like for it to be, maybe you should talk it over with him and get his opinion. Maybe you should seek a christian counsellor's advice. You can spice up your love life without involving other people. Maybe you could visit an adult toy/book store. It is almost certain that when you add additional people to the mix, it will not end well.
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dan-and-jennifer1 year, 1 month ago
To some, if you need a toy, then you must not be sexually satisfied.
There are many types of sexual fantasy, and many of them include other people or sex with strangers, etc. As long as you are openly expressing and sharing your fantasies together, then what's the issue?
We are all different and have unique wants and desires. And guess what? That's OK. Why can't we all accept and love one another for our differences?
Why is it that sexually liberated people tend to be accepting of Christians but not the other way around?
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CARLISKY1 year, 1 month ago
If you took the vows then keep them, otherwise what's the point in getting married. This is not about differences. and guess what? It's not OK. Don't be ridiculous! To think that because sexually "liberated" people tend to be accepting of Christians (which I think is false) is reason enough to assume that Christians must be accepting of sexually "liberation" is total ignorance of what Christianity is. "The works of the flesh: Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness... I have told you that they which do these things shall not inherit the kingdom of God." - Galatians 5:19-21. How's that for God being accepting of the sexually "liberated". Truth is, In this passage, these people are in the same group as murderers. how do you like them apples?
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jdhatl1 year, 1 month ago
"Maybe you should seek a christian counsellor's advice"
That is some terrible advice. Every relationship is unique, and what works for one (or even most) isn't necessarily right for others. I think monogamy makes sense, but that's just my opinion and not a blanket concept I would impose on everyone.
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annnievtaylor1 year ago
I realize the majority of these readers seem to be religious,but religion is really another way of controlling people and adding order and marriage is the same thing.Marriage worked when the life expectancy was 40 max...now people live to 100 and are expected to , pardon the analogy , eat the same meal every night! As long as the prospect is discussed with your spouse and is mutually accepted , why cant a little variety liven up what might be a lacking love life.I hate the whole God issue as it is brought into every aspect of life and without beneficial effects...I do not know 1 happily married person...not 1...religion makes them compromise..normally the woman gives up her dream for her man and my super religious neighbour even has the "how to be a good wife" book next to her bed. Give me a break!Dont attack me for being a humanist please...every human being should be allowed a view.
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PilotSmall1 year, 1 month ago
Oh barf! Christian moral judgements minus any type of educated information again! Anyone, (except the morally uneducated) can read the best educated cultural and social anthropologist in the world to wit: human beings are not monogamous (that was a fiction of religions!) Fact of very well founded university based research is humans are primary, but not monogamous. Primary means we want to be with one person most of the time but not only one person forever! In old times if a woman was mongamous, and a saber tooth ate her spouse, she would like die from no protector. Why dear christian, if your god made us all in his image, do 58% of females and 72% of males have sex with others outside the marriage at some time in the long run? Has nothing to do with "bad" nor "good", just human life, and not against anyone!
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annnievtaylor1 year ago
Carlisky..do you sin and then cross yourself 100 times a day...you seem to live in an unattainable image of what is true and right...the bible is truly....the greatest "story" ever told.
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Charlson1 year, 1 month ago
For me the question is not sex with other partners but what jealousies will rear it's ugly head. And if your self esteem is plagued by self doubts it can never work. Many may dabble in "swinging" but few are successful in maintaining a viable marriage. A relationships between two married people is hard enough to successfully navigate without more players adding more stress. To each their own, but not for me. Besides, my wife has told me no.
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dan-and-jennifer1 year, 1 month ago
Agreed. For this type of lifestyle, your marriage absolutely comes first and nobody takes one for the team. I think that's where a lot of people get confused...
They forget that the whole idea is to make their marriage fun and exciting. They get so absorbed in individual wants and desires that they forget about the marriage.
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antitrust1 year, 1 month ago
So true...I have also discussed this with my wife and as we are still unsure whether we would pursue such encounters is still unknown, however, we both agreed that there had to be rules. An example, and perhaps the most important would be the level of involvement and whether or not either married couple could engage in acts w/ the third party/other couple w/out their spouse. In the end we said "no" because it would be a form of cheating and instead of sharing in the pleasure as a couple, you are only pleasuring yourself (and the other person :P )
Definately not an easy decision to make as a couple after you weigh the numerous consequences.
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mulembo1 year, 1 month ago
Life is what you make it to be. If that's how you want your life and marriage to be, then go for it. Every our action has its consquences. I don't want to cast judgements on people. I am a human myself. But I have my own ideals about LIFE and LOVE. And I've tried with all my heart and sincerity to live up to my ideals, although not everyone would agree w/ my ideas. That's fine. We are all different.
Deep down, we all know what truth and beauty are, but not many of us are willingly to make the effort to attain them at the expense of our whimsical, foolish desires. After we committed the act, then we regret, complain, cry, and blame the world for our own littl foolishness.
Love and Peace, people
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dan-and-jennifer1 year, 1 month ago
You are absolutely right. Most people don't think about the consequences of their actions. Like with everything else in life, sexual encounters do come with risks and consequences.
Just make sure that you understand what they are and that you're willing to accept them. That goes for every aspect of our lives!
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globalwarmer1 year, 1 month ago
I don't think its a decision for a married couple to take lightly especially when there are children involved. I would think the risks outweigh the benefit.
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greenmac1 year, 1 month ago
If everyone knows the risk and wants to play...game on. It happens every day.
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humemacdonald1 year ago
Sheralyn, I don't care what other people do myself, but I think you are right to point out there could be unimagined consequences. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, but just don't make the decision lightly.
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NelsonR1 year, 1 month ago
******. Get a divorce and make the rounds. I'm agnotic but I bet these people are good christians.
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BenDD1 year, 1 month ago
This was just too tempting not to respond. Are you a bad person, probably not! However, Dog breeders have more ethics and discrimination than what you're asking. On second thought Sears has a sale on a small quality socket set. I think they would be Ideal for tightening those small screws because you seem to have a lot of them loose...and I'm not religious! UNBELIEVEABLE. GRAB A DICTIONARY AND LOOK UP THE WORDS...Re... last Moral character. Remember you may make it to age 70 eventually, possibly with grand Kids. What morbid memory to have tucked away in the cranial archives....Get it!!!!
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NelsonR1 year, 1 month ago
Ben - If that tirade was directed towards me may a hundred crabs make life enjoyable for you with your acceptance of this post.
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dan-and-jennifer1 year, 1 month ago
Why do you assume the memories would be morbid? You should never do anything in life that you'll be ashamed of later.
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JhnKroeger1 year, 1 month ago
Yes you are a bad person & you will burn in hell. You should be ashamed of yourself for even thinking of it you pervert!
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moxxxxxxxxxx1 year, 1 month ago
You are neither bad nor good for thinking about this. You are human and these thoughts are part of human sexuality.
But marriage is a commitment or a contract however you choose to see it. And in our society marriage is an institution protected by laws and morality. Marriage is considered the foundation for families and requires a degree of discipline and maturity in order to stay committed. Unfortunately people enter into marriage lacking the maturity for self control and easily give in to their sexual fantasies. You can rationalize it anyway you want to make it right. But the very fact that you have to ask the questions proves you know it isn't right in the first place.
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hiepooh661 year, 1 month ago
whats the big deal sex is sex. it's a part of life. perverts chase cildren or animals, if eve never ate the apple you wouldn't even be here. enjoy life have sex and be happy.
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1-2-Oscar1 year, 1 month ago
Netscape should take action to eliminate posters who are using their site for self-promotion. Here we have two individuals with no professional credentials giving psychological and medical advice--sort of. But what they are really doing is raising tittilating questions in an effort to increase traffic on their own blog.
I wonder if they run any sort of con besides selling books.
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dan-and-jennifer1 year, 1 month ago
Hello. Hmmm...
You are right about one thing - our goal is to get people talking by addressing the tough issues around relationships and sex.
We never claim to give medical or phychological advice, only what we would do or recommend to our best friend under the same situation.
By the way - did you notice that we're the top contributor here for love and personals? No way to do that by only promoting your own blog... We submit the best stories from all over the world.
Our advice may not resonate with you, but it does resonate with 100's of thousands of other people.
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1-2-Oscar1 year ago
I would be more impressed if the "top contributor" was someone not in it for the money.
The social-bookmarking site will be moving soon. Perhaps the new site will incorporate an "auto-sink" feature so that I won't even have to touch a key to register my disapproval of your activities here.
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moxxxxxxxxxx1 year ago
A prude with class and self control! Sounds like the ideal mate to me.
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NeoWiccan1 year, 1 month ago
Hey, everyone has their own "fetish"; some people do that whole dominatrice thing, others have the toe thing (ewwww LOL). If two people are ok with orgy s, I say go for it. It's their life, not mine and even though I wouldn't do things like that, I am not one to judge other peoples lifestyles.
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humemacdonald1 year ago
This is the type of attitude that used to lead monks and other religious fanatics to self mutilation. If you are a Christian and believe that god is in you, I think you should like your whole self, body and mind.
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SAAB76991 year ago
I'd be worried about std's.I you start here where will you
be five years from now? Maybe you and your husband can get into role playing.Perhaps you could take turns changing
your appearence.I think I would try anything else before
I would resort to swinging.Maybe you and your husband could
try having sex with each other in front of your friends
without actually involving them physically.It may be tough
to do but it might satisfy that craving .Remember, what ever
you decide will be with you forever....
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greenmac1 year ago
Yes STD is the major issue here for me....it is a risk....one that can be deadly. Protection against this is a must.
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